My husband and I have been going through a lot of issues for the past few months. We just got married last November and so far it’s not really working out. We almost can’t stand living together, but everyone around me is telling me that we have to make it work. My mom keeps posting quotes on Facebook like “When two people really care about each other they will always look for a way to make it work no matter how hard it is.” Is this true? How can we work to make it better? -- Sharon from Oceanside, New Jersey
I’m sorry to hear that. That’s a very funny quote though. The thing is, it shouldn’t be hard to live with someone if you really care about them. That’s what caring about someone is. Either you like being around them or you don’t. If you do, then that’s the reason you decided to get married in the first place. If you don’t then just leave! As long as you haven’t already shackled yourself with children, there’s really no reason you can’t move on and chalk that marriage up as a mistake and try to grow and learn from it. People make mistakes. That doesn’t mean you have to live with them for years and years. When you allow that to happen you allow your mistakes to define your life and you end up miserable. Don’t define your life by your mistakes, learn from the mistakes and define your life by how well you’ve grown from the lessons you’ve learned. Good luck, Sharon.
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